Earlier today, I read an article that was published in the Ohio State Journal of criminal law written in 1997. From time to time, I like to review how far we’ve come in the understanding of causal links to rape/sexual assault. I cannot tell you how grateful I am as a survivor and therapist, supervisor and teacher, for the gains in public accountability to safely speak about experiences of rape, incest and sexual assault. …
A Testimonial of a Pansexual Gender Queer Woman Who Had to Keep it Down So She Wouldn’t Get Killed
Now that I have your attention.
I can remember, when I was a child, when things got really bad at home. And I was pleading with my parents with everything I had, with my whole body and spirit. I would say to them, “how can you do this?”
“How can you do this to your child!?”
“What are you doing!?”
“How are you doing what you’re doing right now? What is this?”
I was horrified, I knew other kids weren’t…
In 2013, there was a phenomenon in the online porn world known as Gonzo porn. It was the bane of my existence as a new counsellor providing crisis support to children, youth and individuals and families impacted by many assaults, addictions and afflictions on the downtown Eastside of Vancouver, BC, Canada. It was the bane of my existence because it mirrored the rampant misogyny that many of my female and feminine male counterparts were being terrorized by. I wasn’t experiencing it to the same degree because I was wealthier, I was white, and 6 years ago, this still protected me…
by Jessica K. Bruhn, MA, CCC
Re-Creation Healing 2019
When I was a kid, the internet just sort of “happened.” Outside of computer science departments or the research centres of universities, the internet was a beguiling albeit uncertain bedfellow. I enjoyed learning how to instant message in chat rooms and a messaging app I had to download to our computer in order to operate. Hardly anything was web-based in terms of utilitarian apps that now can do anything from convert youtube videos to mp3’s or edit photos. …
When I was a child and youth, I was constantly wondering, thinking, reviewing and creating art from my musings. It was phenomenal to me how incredibly diverse human experiences were, and how intense joy, and sorrow, could be.
This fascination with the human breadth of experience launched me into some very interesting places with some very unique people. I am no longer fascinated with only the mysterious diversity of suffering but also its twin, enduring happiness. I found that when it came down to the nitty gritty of the issues of my schools, workplaces, my friends’ and enemies’ shared lives…
a Follow Up to “When We Hurt An Animal, We Hurt a Child: How Dog Culling Predicts Domestic Violence”
by Jessica K. Bruhn, MA, CCC
I wrote an article last month that I had intended to drum up empathy for the survivors of domestic violence and the dogs that are culled on a regular basis in remote communities in Northern Canada. I neglected to demonstrate empathy for the contextual factors potentially contributing to these challenges in my own article. And as a counsellor, I should have written better. I should have remembered that emotion, especially in times of…
Before the End
Last January was a storm of important decisions. I was planning where to live, what to do, who to place my trust in professionally and weighing the pro’s and con’s of moving across the country in part to have an in-person relationship with my long-distance boyfriend while I continued my psychotherapy practice.
I had fulfilled a lifelong dream two months earlier in visiting my ancestors’ homeland, Denmark. …
Jessica K. Bruhn, MA, CCC
Re-Creation Healing Psychotherapy
Setting the Stage
For a long time I believed that if you were clever and smart, witty and knowledgeable, you would be safe in this world. I believed these traits would protect and insulate you; not many people would be able to rip you off, dupe you, exploit or use you. I wasn’t thinking with my heart, only my head. My heart was offline, unreachable, underutilized. In its avoidance of, as Brene Brown has made a house-hold term, vulnerability, my heart was in fact naive and gullible in this delusion of certainty.
Part II of an Honest Collaboration of Expansion by Jessica K. Bruhn and Sage Bahram
“Clear Vision" by Jessica K. Bruhn. c. 2019
~Upon being asked by many how we come to understand healing from chronic fears of the unknown, Sage and I collaborated and wrote the following. Many blessings to all who read it, may your existence be rich in joy and full of profound glory.~
People don’t need help, they need love. They need to be in the presence of universal love. Non-sexual, non-agenda-taking, basic safety-protecting, fraternal, platonic love. To eschew fear, we must not avoid it, we…
I’ll be frank: I was taught to want the bad guy, the complicated and confused remnant of sideshow interactions and the “intriguing” antihero of ancient fables. My dad was a huge liar with low self-esteem and a painful aversion to intimacy throughout my childhood and like any child, I loved what I had, and subconsciously identified him and much of his positive and negative traits as a model for what I wanted in my own husband some day.
I’m not interested in antiheroes or figuring out some complicated, beleagured soul who deep down has a heart of gold yet struggles…
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